OAsis in the Desert
Volume 1, Issue 4
Unity with Diversity Desert
Chat from the Chair
This is the last issue of our newsletter before turning into Volume 2! A year goes by so quickly and as I reflect on our journey I realize we've accomplished a great deal, with much more to do!
March elections for Intergroup were held on March 16th. Thanks to everyone for their service and commitment to program.
Our new board for 2019-2020:
Vice Chair: Julie
Asst. Treasurer: Cindy
World Service Delegate: Mindy
Region 2 Representatives: Michelle and Alan for Spring Assembly.
Website: Lori/Candace C.
Assistant Website: Cathy
Newsletter Editor: We are looking for you!!! Please apply if interested.
If you're experienced with creating newsletters, go for it. If you need help, your predecessors can walk you through each step, provide you with templates, possible articles, and more. You're not alone! What are you willing to do today to live in recovery?
An Invitation to All Members
I have thoroughly enjoyed giving service as intergroup newsletter chair for the past two years. It's been a pleasure to read articles of recovery from enthusiastic members and compile them into a final product each month. When I first ran for newsletter chair, I really didn't know what I was doing. However, I knew from previous experience with OA service that people are always willing to help and support me. I've held other service positions I didn't think I could do but with HP and the teamwork that occurs at intergroup, I was able to help carry the message.
This is an invitation to all members to consider giving service at or above group level. Service has been such a big part of my recovery. It serves several purposes for me. Fist, I get out of myself. Thank you, HP! I get to channel my energy into something worthwhile instead of worrying, fretting, eating, bingeing, or purging. I get to turn my will and life over to HP by working with sponsees, putting a newsletter together, volunteering at health fairs and more. Most
of the time, I'm feeling great and in alignment with HP.
All of this seems like work, but it's more like an investment; it adds to the quality of my life. It's living in recovery for me. I've made lasting friendships through service and gained new skills. Most important, I've stayed abstinent. Service is really Step Twelve work. I can't keep what I've been given by working the Twelve Steps unless I give it away. So I will continue giving service in another capacity when my term as newsletter chair ends. I'll have something new to learn and share. When it's time to rotate service, it's my chance (and yours) to experience recovery in yet another way. Consider becoming a newsletter chair.
The Fellowship needs you.
Those who wait to be recovering or abstaining before they give service miss the fact that many who do service are gifted with recovery/abstinence along the way.
Let's Continue our Review of The Twelve Traditions.......
for the months of April, May and June.
How well do we know the traditions?
4. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or OA as a whole.
5. Each group has but one primary purpose - to carry its message to the compulsive overeater who still suffers.
6. An OA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the OA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.
For Discussion...and Journaling...
How compelling is OA for you?
Can you write a list of reasons why you keep coming back?
How about a list of what keeps you coming back when you don't feel like it?
Then share it at your next meeting.
UNITY WITH DIVERSITY DESERT INTERGROUP
P.O. Box 3796 Palm Desert, CA 92261-3796
Hotline: 442-227-0358 Email: desertOA@hotmail.com
Visitors are always welcome to our Intergroup meetings, which are held the 3rd Saturday of each month at St. Margaret's Episcopal Church on Hwy 74 in Palm Desert from 11:45 AM - 1:15 PM.
OA Region 2 4733 Torrance Blvd PMB 335 Torrance, CA
OA World Service
PO Box 44727
Rio Rancho, NM
Phone: (505) 891-2664
REGION 2 SPRING ASSEMBLY
When: March 29-30, 2019 (Friday evening and all day Saturday) Where: Pomona, California Registration: Online registration will open soon Cost: To Be Determined
Contact: Events Coordinator at email@example.com
UDDI representatives are Michelle and Alan!
Feel free to address any questions regarding the Assembly to them.
Need a sponsor?
Our Twelfth Step Within
flyer is one source to check.
It lists contact info of available sponsors.
Check the desertoa.org website for a copy of the flyer.
Sponsee willing to embark on a journey of recovery through the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of OA. Must be Honest, Open Minded and Willing. If interested, contact Cathy at 760-219-1962 between the hours of 12:00PM (noon) and 11:59PM. Call, text or leave a voicemail. I cannot keep it if I don’t give it away.
Newsletter Editor for Intergroup!
If you have a desire for service this is an ideal place to start!
For full details on what's involved please send an email to desertOA@hotmail.com.
Intergroup Secretary -
Mel has agreed to stay on as secretary for the Intergroup temporarily but we promised her to continue the search. If you feel your Higher Power wants you to step up for service this would be a great way to do so. To qualify for this position you must commit to a service term of 1 year, be working the 12 Steps for one year, be familiar with the 12 traditions, have six months of current abstinence and regular attendance at a local meeting for one year or serving as an Intergroup Rep. The secretary takes minutes of our Intergroup meetings once a month, types them up and distributes them to the Intergroup members. The secretary reads the minutes at the next Intergroup meeting.
Pray about it! Ask your Higher Power if this is a service you could provide!
Many thanks to Neil who served this past year as our Vice Chair, to Julie for stepping up for this service, to Mel for staying on as Secretary and
to Alan and Cathy for proofreading service!!
Special thanks to all for your service and your commitment.
Overeaters Anonymous is a Fellowship of individuals who, through shared experience, strength, and hope, are recovering from compulsive overeating. We welcome everyone who wants to stop eating compulsively There are no dues or fees for members; we are self-supporting through our own contributions, neither soliciting nor accepting outside donations. OA is not affiliated with any public or private organization, political movement, ideology, or religious doctrine; we take no position on outside issues. Our primary purpose is to abstain from compulsive eating and compulsive food behaviors and to carry the message of recovery through the 12 Steps of OA to those who still suff
"Come on in! We've been waiting for you!" That's what I heard as I walked through the doors of an OA meeting in 2015. Two ladies were sitting in the meeting room, both long-timers. One of them had moved to our small coastal town a year earlier, found no OA meetings and decided to start one. I struggled to link the language of the program to my life, but one day I got it. I found I am compulsive (driven to eat nonstop) and an overeater (voracious). But most of all, I found I was insane. I was powerless over the chaos in my head, the never-ending self-talk. I developed a prayer for myself: "Help me, help me, help me." It was the best I could do. One evening, I glanced at the clock and realized I had not thought of food for five minutes. Such a small and simple thing - five minutes. Some months later, the ladies invited me to a movie. I'd been wearing sweatpants and muumuus for many years, but for a movie, I wanted to dress up a little. All during the sweatpants years, I'd had on my closet floor a box of jeans, all sizes of jeans - jeans I couldn't wear and jeans I might wear someday and jeans I needed to save for future days, just in case. I put some on. At the theater, we got our tickets and found big seats in the back row. It was getting close to show time, and I was worrying about walking in front of a whole row of people just to get to the ladies' room. But I had to go.
I hurried to the ladies' room and got into the big stall. I'd barely touched the waistband of my jeans when they fell off. They were down around my ankles before I knew what was happening. Clothes never fell off my body before! I laughed so hard I peed. I was still laughing when I reached down to pull up those too-big jeans. My elbow knocked the roll of toilet paper out of its niche and it unrolled itself gleefully though three adjacent stalls. The garbage was full, so I just balled up the whole roll and put it in my purse. Immediately, I knew my purse looked as if it was stuffed with food. I had to rush to get back into the theater. The lights were out and music was already playing. I had to shuffle past thirty legs in the dark, holding up my jeans and carrying a purse that looked like it was full of food. When I finally got back to my seat our very vocal long -timer looked at my bulging bag and said, "Is your purse full of goodies?" I am so grateful for my new beginnings. My mind is quiet and I am one year abstinent. Yesterday, a newcomer walked through our door.
------Carolyn I., Oregon, USA
My first region convention was quite an adventure.
I was nervous and
apprehensive but I knew I needed to volunteer for service, so I volunteered to be a greeter for the first evening. My thought process was that it would be hard to mess up that job.
I reported on time for my service and found I was partnered with a long-timer, a very experienced OA member. Our assignment was to greet people at the front door of the small hotel we were in. Our convention was the only one the hotel was hosting.
I watched my partner greet members as they arrived for registration and I joined in. As time went on I noticed she would ask people if they wanted a hug. I thought I would do the same.
A senior gentleman arrived when it was my turn to greet. I asked him if he wanted a hug. "Sure", he said.
After I hugged him, he said, "What group is this meeting here?" He said this in a way that sounded as if he wanted to join us. But, come to find out, he had come a week early for a different event.
I was mortified. The registration people and a few others, including my sister-in-law,realized what had just
happened and witnessed the look on my face.
That was not my last region
convention, and, sure
enough, every single year I go, I have to hear again about that awkward, funny moment from those who witnessed it. And we all laugh again.
At the end of our meetings, our group leader usually says, "After a moment of silence for compulsive overeaters who are still suffering, please join me in the OA Promise." But one night, it came out like this: "After a moment of suffering for compulsive overeaters who are still silent..." It felt good to laugh together at the slip and realize that our meetings are pure joy.
---Terry, Pennsylvania USA
(Laughs All from
August 20 page 3)
❤ AND MORE...
Underlining the Back Story
Back in the twentieth century it still felt okay to ridicule fat people. They seemed so cartoonish. Who could resist poking fun at them behind their backs? Today, I know that gossip is despicable. The obese are the last objects of scorn and prejudice, aren't they? What did we ignorant people know of their inner lives? In a memoir I read, the author talks about being sexually abused while she was growing up; she binged to build a wall for protection. How common is that backstory to the current obesity epidemic? Too common! My disdain for supersized people took another hit recently when a youngish man stomped into our Twelve Step room. When I heard his heavy footfalls I felt like I was hiding from a giant in a fairy tale. But when I greeted him he confessed, "I lack the courage to kill myself, so I binge on junk food all day into oblivion." This young, handsome gentle giant found a convert in a public library meeting room. I salute his honesty.
There, but for the grace of God, go I.
N.T. Lifeline 9/18
Fun and Fellowship
Many of us have lost the ability to have fun while in our disease...
The Twelve Step Within Fun and Fellowship Subcommittee surveyed OA members from all over the world to uncover barriers preventing fun and fellowship in program and solutions to overcome them.
Let's share their great stories to help turn potential customers into loyal ones.
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Grant me the Serenity
To accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and Wisdom to know the difference.
Unity with Diversity Desert Intergroup
P.O. Box 3796
Palm Desert, CA
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